Am Me High Maintenance You Think?
Have you seen this one before? It's for both men and women. I caught it whilst checking my hotmail mail... mail. This was a featured quiz, and I had ten minutes to kill so I did it. I can't recall if I've done it before.
It wants to find out if you are a high maintenance partner.
I apparently am a limp noodle. I'm
The Patient Pleaser
"You're clearly a loving, understanding, go-along-to-get-along person. But you may want to address whether you're getting as much as you're giving. It may be that you're simply not addressing your own demands. It may be that you yourself are dating someone high-maintenance, even bossy. But whenever there's a hint of disagreement, you're willing to give up your aspirations for love and attention so that the other person can have his or her way.
"Don't for a second lose your pleasant demeanor. But don't be afraid to push back once in a while with a request for a change or a demand for attention. Even getting into an argument can be healthier in the long run than bottling up your emotions. And you may just find that the other person respects your love more when you stick up for yourself."
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That ended up harsher than I was ready for but I put in honest answers. I don't think for one minute that my needs aren't being addressed cuz I ain't got any.
See where you are. Be honest.
posted by RW @ 2:53 PM
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I got:
The Thoughtful Juggler
Maybe you're a former drama queen/king who learned to care about the feelings of others. Or maybe you're a former duckling who has blossomed into a swan, and you're no longer afraid to make demands of the other critters who swim in your pond. But you're definitely a juggler—you're capable of sympathizing with the needs of your loved ones, while still being self-assertive enough never to get stepped on.
Kudos to you for being strong and expressing what you want in a relationship! You're definitely not high-maintenance. But you might see what happens if you were to go-it-alone on occasion. Once in a while, ask yourself whether you're trying to get attention rather than fixing a problem that you can easily handle by yourself.
Sounds about right. Some of those questions, though, were stupid. Who really can't go to the party, anyway, and get ice or Tylenol there? - And that wasn't an option! I think I'm more laid back than that quiz suggests - I just went with the next best answer.
The Lone Wolf
High Maintenance? Not at this house! Neediness never crosses your threshold, and you're not in the habit of forcing people to bend to your will. If it comes to that, you'd rather go it alone.
That's not to say you want to go through life alone—when love comes your way, you embrace it. But you always let the other person have lots of space, and like to have quite a bit for yourself as well. It's no skin off your nose if they want to have friends over or go out and do something you don't want to do. And you don't mind being by yourself once in a while and forging your own path.
But remember while you're out there being the lone wolf, even wolves snuggle up in the den on cold nights. You may find you both feel more loved if you enjoy some activities together. Don't stop being easygoing—it's great that you don't bully people into doing what you want to do or doing things for you. But make sure people have an opening to be with you, even to help you or dote on you, because love sometimes means allowing yourself to be loved.
(well, duh...
i was the mongamous married guy who live alone for 4yrs, and liked it that way.)
I'm a patient pleaser too, but like Sybil said, not all of the answers were spot on - I went with the closest on a couple.
I got the same as Gino.
I'm also a Patient Pleaser, but that shouldn't surprise anyone.
Patient Pleaser here as well, but this is the only relationship that I've ever been in that I am like that.
Maturity and all that shit.
I was diagnosed as being the Patient Pleaser too.
Oh mine is SO totally me! Love it!
"The Lone Wolf", (read Gino's comment)
My husband says he's going somewhere, I'm all "When are you leaving? here let me help you pack!"
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